Modern life is full of demands and we must choose which ones we will give precedence to, because no one can meet them all. As a skill of survival we must all learn to say NO not that, to a few things, but we must also make sure that our priorities are where we think they are. Do we claim to want a deep relationship and then throw all of our time and energy into our jobs or how well our furniture matches? These are not bad things, but one must prioritize for what is truly important to oneself. Not what the rest of the world seems to tell us we should prioritize (whiter laundry? Really?).
Prioritizing is also skill. Another skill that most of us were not taught to well. It can be extremely helpful to actually list the most important elements of your identity or lifestyle or goals and actually number the top five for yourself. Things like Job, education, looking great, being healthy, time with friends, goofing off, eating healthy, great sex, good parenting, a fun healthy relationship, a bigger house. You get the idea. Now choose only five to really focus on the most. Increasing quality of life really is about simplifying. Quantity is only a replacement for quality when we don’t know what quality looks or feels like. Typical of our arrogant western emptiness. Now ask yourself: Do you make time for these top five things or do you squander it on things or people you claim are less important? This is not a list you have to show anyone or try to justify in any way, but the result might just be surprising.
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